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12Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:09 pm
“This blog also holds the view that women are attracted to alpha males who can “lead” them in relationships and be rather dominant in the relationship”
Leading directly in the relationship is one thing (women lead less directly with different signals), but dominating a woman is another; I dislike putting them together. I doubt it’s hard for an independent woman to apply the truths of nature at all. By avoiding the hookup culture, she’s already refusing to let the evolutionary biology of women flocking to as*holes and being sexually loose until she finds the right man control her life.
13GudEnuf September 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm
Steph:
It has taken me this long to realize that in order for me to truly claim that women deserve respect, kindness and to have the sort of relationships they want, I have to stop participating in hookup culture.
Do women deserve respect? Of course.
Kindness? To a reasonable extent.
To have the sort of relationships they want? No. An LTR is not your birthright.
14Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm
What’s wrong Stanley, disappointed another one’s off the market?
“I don’t think what you believe is at odds with feminism either, really. Maybe in the mind of the most fundamentalist sex-positive but a woman doing what’s best for her emotional health isn’t self-hating”
Bingo. Now she’s free of both the lie that she really wants an effeminate man, and the unhealthy urge to go for an alpha asshat.
15Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Gud, I think a LTR is what almost everyone was born for.
16Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:31 pm
I meant to say before now, awesome job Susan! This lady was wise enough to see the writing on the wall for herself, but you definitely helped. It’s why your blog is so cool; you know that men can be men without being cads, and you discourage bad sexual acts from both genders. One of the cruelest ironies is that feminism tried to make women think they’d like effeminate and supplicatory men, but they failed. So when they set women sexually loose, the women instead gravitated to high-testasterone jerks. This age of putting sex above logic and commitment has been a disaster for everyone.
Well-done, Steph.
17Susan Walsh September 20, 2011 at 4:40 pm
@Isabel
Judging a Man By the Company He Keeps
Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like
Use Business Strategy to Improve Your Dating Life
Your Cheatin’ DRD4 Gene Mutation
The Hidden Cost of Keeping Sex Casual
Sign Me Up for Male Studies
Eleven Key Insights From the Men of Hooking Up Smart
12Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:09 pm
“This blog also holds the view that women are attracted to alpha males who can “lead” them in relationships and be rather dominant in the relationship”
Leading directly in the relationship is one thing (women lead less directly with different signals), but dominating a woman is another; I dislike putting them together. I doubt it’s hard for an independent woman to apply the truths of nature at all. By avoiding the hookup culture, she’s already refusing to let the evolutionary biology of women flocking to as*holes and being sexually loose until she finds the right man control her life.
13GudEnuf September 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm
Steph:
It has taken me this long to realize that in order for me to truly claim that women deserve respect, kindness and to have the sort of relationships they want, I have to stop participating in hookup culture.
Do women deserve respect? Of course.
Kindness? To a reasonable extent.
To have the sort of relationships they want? No. An LTR is not your birthright.
14Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:11 pm
What’s wrong Stanley, disappointed another one’s off the market?
“I don’t think what you believe is at odds with feminism either, really. Maybe in the mind of the most fundamentalist sex-positive but a woman doing what’s best for her emotional health isn’t self-hating”
Bingo. Now she’s free of both the lie that she really wants an effeminate man, and the unhealthy urge to go for an alpha asshat.
15Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Gud, I think a LTR is what almost everyone was born for.
16Jennifer September 20, 2011 at 4:31 pm
I meant to say before now, awesome job Susan! This lady was wise enough to see the writing on the wall for herself, but you definitely helped. It’s why your blog is so cool; you know that men can be men without being cads, and you discourage bad sexual acts from both genders. One of the cruelest ironies is that feminism tried to make women think they’d like effeminate and supplicatory men, but they failed. So when they set women sexually loose, the women instead gravitated to high-testasterone jerks. This age of putting sex above logic and commitment has been a disaster for everyone.
Well-done, Steph.
17Susan Walsh September 20, 2011 at 4:40 pm
@Isabel