Is she into me?
Old fwb or new shy boy?
The Matrix of Modern Relationships
Friends With Penalties
Tough Call: Sex Before Commitment?
In Combat Dating, You Can’t Afford to Fight Like a Girl
The 30 Best Cheap Dates I Ever Went On
Road Rules of Dating


I would suggest that women might be the bigger commitment gatekeepers overall because they screen out such a high % of men as not worthy of her, what I called the initial gatekeeping phase.

52HanSolo August 9, 2012 at 7:48 pm
My opinion, and curious about other’s, is that men who are 9-10 are cleaning up, either getting casual or having a good selection for LTR’s. (But you still have to choose wisely, Robert Pattinson!)

When a man’s an 8 he does pretty well in today’s market. It’s below that level where things increasingly fall off for men, especially as you get down to 5-

53Cooper August 9, 2012 at 7:50 pm
@Susan

Can you please help me understand the two immutable biological imperatives, that we’d talk about earlier. I still really do not understand.

Is our biology supposed to never be excused? Or are we supposed to avoid it?

Do women embrace hypergamy, or do they avoid it?

According to these biological imperatives, is a man right in seeking “access to sex with as few complications or commitments as possble?�

Does being a man mean I’m supposed to escalate with women I have no intensions, or foresight, of giving commitment to?

I made a massive forum post, but I believe it is too long and cluttered.

It seems like both biological imperative exist to serve each individual sex, while signaling long-term commitment risks towards the opposite.

How are we supposed to deal with these two? (ie are men right in avoiding a hypergamous women, and how should women feel about a ‘variety-seeking’ man?)

Is a monogamous relationship always suppose to be built on both sexes renouncing their imperatives?

54Cooper August 9, 2012 at 8:10 pm
@HanSolo?
The answers all lie in the 80/20 rule. (I’ve been think about this myself)